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Baby Sleep Basics: Newborn Sleep

Sleep: yours, your partner’s, the baby’s….where do we begin?   Society would have us focus on the babies and the correct way to “train” them to sleep well.  But wading through the conflicting information (which all seems to be supported by research) in your state of exhaustion only adds to the confusion. That’s why this rant about…

Helping Children Adjust To A New Sibling

Having siblings is wonderful and a special relationship like no other. Of course parents want to support close and caring relationships between our children. You can see from the excitement and adoration many children show when a new child arrives, that great love and closeness are possible and natural. At the same time, having a…

4 Playful Tools to Reduce Sibling Rivalry

If your family is stressed by sibling rivalry, there is hope! Games which bring siblings together as a team to defeat their parents (all in good fun) are good for sibling relationships! You play the role of the less smart and capable, less powerful one, the one the kids can laugh at together and team up…

3 Things Children Need Us To Know When They Hit Or Bite

1.  Children Who Hit or Bite Have Lost Their Sense of Connection After young children pass through the stage of hitting experimentally, which is a stage that passes early on, if they show aggressive behavior, they need your help. It might not be obvious from the outside, but when children hit or bite others, they…

The Gift Of Special Time

“Special Time” is one of the listening tools that I teach to parents. I have used it myself as a parent for over 15 years, and it has been a gift to everyone in our family. It helps us recover from our rough patches and makes the good times even sweeter. So, in the spirit of…

10 Tips For When Your Gentle Parenting Is Going Out The Window

As parents, we’ve all been there, or we will be someday. Our busy lives create lots of pressure. It’s awful when the patience, perspective, mindfulness — or whatever we have been working to sustain or cultivate — just slips away from us. It may feel like everything is fine until, suddenly, it’s not. Or, we…

Finding Holiday Balance

Dear Parents, I’m thinking of you as Thanksgiving approaches! For many of us, pressures are mounting as we add more to our busy schedules. Family visits, even when happily anticipated, bring added stresses and tensions. It can be hard to make the decisions that are right for you and your family! Pressure to have holidays…

A Review of Listen: Five Simple Tools To Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges

    Reading the new book Listen: Five Simple Tools To Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges is a little like visiting an amazingly caring, honest and helpful parents’ group. Hearing the stories of other parents, readers will feel less alone with their parenting struggles.  Parents will also feel deeply understood by authors Patty Wipfler and Tosha…

Beyond Baby Boot Camp: Five Essential Tips For New Dads

  Dads are so great. You play, you provide, you nurture, you support. Often, dads find that they love their children more than they ever thought it was possible to love. And yet, I think it’s safe to say that most new fathers are in for a shock. No matter how ready you try to…

When Birth Doesn’t Go As Hoped

A woman’s experience giving birth will stay with her for the rest of her life.  I haven’t met many women who’ve had enough opportunities to talk about and process their birth experiences. When a woman feels disappointed or traumatized by her birth, then the need to process the experience on her own terms is often stymied by…

Three Reasons Why Postpartum Support Is Not Just For Mothers

I once got the sweetest client feedback when a new father wrote: “You helped me to find the bond with my son.” I don’t mean to imply that men cannot do this on their own, but, for this particular father I was able to help him build his confidence in that bond. How did this…

6 Tips for Tough Parenting Moments

When our children’s emotions are running high, often ours are not far behind. Here are some gentle reminders for those moments when you are all having a hard time. 1. Trust that children are trying to express a need with their behavior, not manipulate you. 2. When a child’s behavior goes off track, try getting…